Paudie O’Connor: The Basketball Star I Loved

Paudie O’Connor, the charismatic Irishman I fell in love with back in 1972, was already a basketball success in Killarney when I met him.

Paud, as he liked me to call him, fell in love with basketball when he was young. He began practicing his basketball skills along with his brothers at an early age. When we first met, he explained to me how he taught himself to shoot at the net.

In the heart of Killarney was a modest green space marked by a single timber telegraph pole. It was here that the O'Connor boys created their own basketball court, with Paudie climbing onto his brothers' shoulders to attach a hoop to the pole.

Paudie developed his extraordinary shooting and scoring abilities on this makeshift court that served as his training ground. The proper basketball court in the neighboring parish hall became his second home.

He confided in me that he used to sleep with his basketball so that the ball's scent would be the first thing he smelled when he woke up. He lived, breathed, and yes, even smelled basketball.

Basketball wasn't just a passion for Paudie—it completely captivated him. His unmatched commitment to the sport demonstrated his exceptional focus and love for the game

When Paud came to visit me in the States in the summer of 1973, he had just returned from Dean Smith’s Carolina Basketball Camp in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, where he had learned new skills from the famous university coach he so admired. He was eager to return to Killarney and share everything he learned with his teammates.

"Deb, we'll be unstoppable," he said in his sexy Irish accent. "You have no idea how much more advanced de Americans are when it comes to basketball."

I was amazed by his dedication to the sport he loved so well.

As for his physical appeal, I’ll tell you the truth: Paud was HOT. He was tall - 6'‘4” - with an athlete’s taut, muscular body and the most gorgeous face on the planet. And oh, those soulful blue eyes of his! Wherever we went, I was conscious of how lucky I was to be his girlfriend. Every woman we encountered envied me, and I knew it.

When Paudie and I were together, despite his attractiveness to others, he remained completely devoted to me. He made me feel like I was uniquely special to him. He consistently complimented my appearance, intelligence, and company. No other man has ever made me feel so valued and cherished.

I was also amazed by the person Paudie truly was—never boastful, always sweet-natured and kind.

He proved to be the ideal boyfriend for someone like me, who had been firmly convinced I wanted nothing to do with romance before meeting him.

I was fortunate that Paudie fell in love with me, and basketball was equally blessed that he loved the sport so deeply.

Paudie O'Connor had a profound, positive impact on my life. He taught me to love freely and without restraints, to believe in myself, and to follow my dreams without hesitation. I will always love him.

There is so much more to our love story, but you’ll have to wait for my book, Searching For Danny Boy to be published.

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To learn more about Paudie O’Connor’s life, follow this link: https://ibb-history.blogspot.com/p/paudie-oconnor-killarney.html

AUTHOR: Deb Trotter

Ireland Taught Me To Love Myself

Ireland was the perfect teacher. She taught me how to love myself - to be proud of myself.

I began my adventure there as a recent college graduate along with my best friend, Marygray, in the summer of 1972.

We started out green in a lush green land - so eager to please, yet so naive.

Our British employer at Ballyseede Castle in Tralee, Mrs. Devlin, was not impressed. Not with our American short skirts, our friendly American attitudes, nor our self-preserving laughter when times got tough. She grew tired of our determination to stay, called us "not suitable," and fired us after only three weeks.

It took us the rest of the summer to become "expedient" as silver service waitresses (a simple bow will do, a big smile won't), but we persevered and found better jobs at the Aghadoe Hotel in Killarney. It was under the professional tutelage of Dennis, the German Maitre'd there, that we came into our own as valued employees and gained the courage to follow our dreams.

By the time our Visas expired (sadly), we'd become Ireland-savvy, self-confident, and proud. Thanks to Mother Ireland and all she taught me, I finally loved myself for who I was.

Gimme Some Craic!

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Have you ever heard the word “craic” and wondered what it means? Well, get ready to dive into the wonderful world of Irish culture and discover the true essence of craic! 

Brief Introduction to the Term Craic …

Craic, pronounced as “crack,” is an Irish word that is deeply ingrained in the country’s culture and social life. It is often used to describe a vibrant and enjoyable atmosphere, filled with laughter, conversation, and good times.

When I worked in Ireland the summer of 1972, I had never heard the word “Craic” used before.

And when my co-workers at Ballyseede Castle heard Marygray and I laughing, they knocked on our door and yelled, “Any craic?”

We had no clue what they meant. We figured it must’ve been some kind of Irish slang and that they were teasing but we weren’t sure how to respond.

So, we didn’t reply. Marygray and I ignored them and hoped that the girls would explain “craic” when they got a chance to know us.

Eventually, they told us that it was a favorite Irish term. After all, the Irish are a fun people.

“When we asked ye if dere was any craic, we were wantin’ to know what kind of fun ye were havin’,” they said. “Ye were laughin’ ye know!”

Historical Background of the Word Craic …

The word craic has its roots in the English language, derived from the Middle English word “crak,” which means “loud conversation” or “boast.” Over time, it found its way into Irish colloquial speech, becoming an integral part of the Irish lexicon. 

Explanation of the Usage of Craic in Irish Culture … 

In Irish culture, craic is not just a word; it is a way of life. It represents the warm and welcoming nature of the Irish people, as well as their love for socializing and enjoying the company of others. Whether it’s in a pub, a family gathering, or a community event, the concept of craic is at the heart of Irish social interactions. 

Comparison of Craic to Similar Terms in Other Cultures …

The Irish "craic" stands unique among similar cultural concepts. While it shares elements with the Spanish "fiesta" or American phrases like "live it up" or "have a blast," craic distinctively blends humor, storytelling, and authentic connection in a way that creates something truly special.

Significance of Craic in Today’s Irish Society … 

In today’s Irish society, craic continues to hold immense significance. It serves as a unifying force, bringing people together and fostering a sense of community. Whether it’s a casual pub gathering, a music festival, or a celebration, craic is the glue that binds the Irish people and keeps their spirits high. 

Conclusion Reflecting on the Importance of Craic … 

In conclusion, craic is more than just a word; it represents the lively spirit and rich cultural heritage of Ireland. It is a testament to the Irish people’s love for good company, laughter, and shared experiences. So, the next time you hear someone mention craic, embrace the opportunity to immerse yourself in the vibrant and joyful world of Irish culture. 

Are you ready to experience the craic for yourself? Grab a pint, gather some friends, and embark on an unforgettable journey of laughter, camaraderie, and an authentic taste of Ireland. Join us in embracing the true meaning of craic and discover why it is a beloved word in the Irish lexicon. Sláinte!” 

CAN’T HELP IT: I LOVE GUINNESS!

THE WHOLE WORLD LOVES GUINNESS - AND IT'S THE #1 BEER IN AMERICA!

Guinness Beer is popular in America, with many enjoying this dark Irish stout.

My first experience with Guinness was at a pub in Killarney, where my Irish boyfriend, Paudie O’Connor, encouraged me to try it. Even though Paud didn’t drink, he appreciated Guinness’s popularity in his native country.

“Just give it a chance, Deb,” Paudie said. “You can’t go back to the States and say you never even tried a taste of de Black.” (That’s what they call Guinness in Ireland - the Black Stuff, even though it’s actually reddish-brown if you hold a glass of Guinness up to the light.) Once I adjusted to its warmer serving temperature, I appreciated its velvety texture and roasted flavors.

I was surprised that I had to wait a while to taste my first glass of Guinness. It’s a good thing I did. Otherwise, I’d have missed out on the perfect pint.

A perfect pint of Draught Guinness requires exactly 119.53 seconds to pour, with a necessary pause during the process. When pouring, the glass should be held at a 45-degree angle, ensuring the liquid first contacts the side of the glass with the harp logo.

I grew to love a good glass of the Black Stuff.

I always thought Guinness could easily put on pounds, but Guinness isn't a "heavy" calorie-laden drink. A pint contains only about 200 calories—less than many lagers and even less than a pint of orange juice (220 calories). That’s a good thing to know if you visit Ireland and are trying to watch your weight.

Americans enjoy Guinness for its unique character, and the brewery has created variations specifically for the US market. Beyond taste, the culture surrounding Guinness—from St. Patrick's Day celebrations to Guinness World Records—has enhanced its appeal.

Founded in 1759 by Arthur Guinness in Dublin, it's now brewed worldwide, including in the US.

However, in my opinion, American-made Guinness lacks the distinctive quality of Irish-brewed Guinness, which has a superior taste without the aftertaste found in the American version.

What's your experience with Guinness? Have you enjoyed it on St. Patrick's Day or have a favorite memory with this iconic beer?

Have you ever tasted it in Ireland?

Do let me know in the comments!

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